The purpose of this meditation is to generate the sincere wish to abandon self-cherishing, and then to meditate on this wish in light of the fact that all living beings are our mothers.

I began with some breathing meditation and tried to keep my mind on my breath. After a while of wrestling, I eventually had a relatively peaceful and settled mind.

I then began contemplating the kindness of all living beings. I generated a feeling of gratefulness towards all living beings, because they act as the objects for my compassion, patience and rejoicing.

I then thought about how I want to share my cherishing of myself with my cherishing of others. I then thought about what good this self-cherishing actually is. When I think of myself, I perceive a very strong appearance of ‘self’, and on the basis of this appearance I generate self-cherishing. I automatically regard this self as supremely important and this creates selfish intentions. Driven by these intentions I compete with others for happiness. I am constantly plotting against others so that my actions create the best conditions possible for me at the expense of others.

Self-cherishing makes me perceive a complete difference between myself and others, and this perception creates all my problems. It also hurts others – the very people I love so much.

I thought of how horrible this self-cherishing is, because it makes selfish intentions dominate my thinking. I want to be rid of these selfish intentions. I want to be rid of self-cherishing. It is worthless and harmful. It stops me being happy and it causes me to harm others.

I focused on this wish to abandon my self cherishing, and felt a strong desire to be rid of this awful mind. I tried to keep it  focused and alive in my attention.

I then thought about what this means in light of the fact that all living beings are my mother. I thought about how all the other people that I end up harming are really my mother. How ungrateful! My kind mothers help me and cherish me in life after life, and  I reward them by keeping them at arm’s length while I help myself to the best. This horrible mind must be brought to an end.

With this thought in mind I focused my attention on the wish to abandon self-cherishing.


May all living beings abandon self-cherishing and with the freedom this brings, quickly attain enlightenment for the benefit of all.

Practice in the Meditation Break

I will try to maintain my wish to be rid of self-cherishing because it causes so much harm to myself and others.