The purpose of this meditation is to generate a deep feeling of appreciation for our mother, remembering her kindness, and then to meditate on this appreciation in the light of equalising self and others.

I began with breathing mediation, letting my focus become more and more subtle until my mind was still and tranquil.

I then contemplated the kindness of my mother of this life. I thought of the many ways in which she looked after me and cherished me. I also thought of all the bad things she did, or appeared to do. How to deal with these memories?

I decided that memories are unreliable, especially those laid down as a child, with a child’s perspective. I also thought about the fact that I was comparing her performance with an unrealistic alternative – a mother who has spent her entire life only doing things that I like and approve of! How ridiculous! My mother loved me, and although she was not perfect, no-one else loved me as she did. No-one else cared for me and looked after me the way she did. And everything she did, she did because she thought it was best for me.

I thought about all these points and generated a deep appreciation for her kindness, which I focused on for a while.

I then thought about what this means in light of equalising self and others.

I should find it easy to develop love for my mother – a love as strong as I have for myself, because no-one else has loved me that completely in this life. I felt a feeling of love and gratitude towards my mother, and stayed with it for the rest of the meditation.


May all living beings remember the kindness of their mothers, and through this rememberance quickly attain enlightenment for the benefit of all.

Practice in the Meditation Break

I will try to always remember the kindness of my mother, and remember her with affection and gratitude.