The purpose of this meditation is to meditate on the advantages of cherishing others, and then to meditate on this in light of equalising self and others.

I began with some breathing meditation until my mind was nicely settled.

I then started thinking about how true happiness comes from cherishing others. It is not an obvious thing to think, but it is true. I remember when I was in school and our English teacher asked what is the difference between happiness and pleasure. I told him that I thought happiness is when you give something and pleasure is when you get something. He agreed and explained that pleasure was more of a passing thing whereas happiness is a more profound, deep seated emotion.

I thought about how all the happiness in the world comes from wishing others to be happy. I need to trust the Buddhas when they tell me this. Everything I believe instinctively tells me that happiness lies in looking after myself, but I know from my own experience that the few times I put others before myself I am at my happiest. I need to trust the Buddhas completely.

I focused on the need for me to trust Geshe-la and make the leap of faith that I now need to cherish only others. I felt like my cherishing was reaching out to others – cherishing only others.

After focusing on this for a while I moved on to think about what this means in light of equalising self and others.

It seemed to me that increasing my cherishing for others was part of equalising my cherishing of self and others – they fitted on inside the other. Once again I focused on the leap of faith I need to make – to overcome my self cherishing instincts and to cherish others.


May all living beings make the leap of faith of cherishing others, and come to enjoy the perfect happiness of true inner peace.

Practice in the Meditation Break

I will try to cherish only others, and make a special note of how it feels to hold others to be important, and to care deeply about their happiness and freedom.