The purpose of this meditation is to generate the strong wish for others to find true happiness, and then to meditate on this wish in light of equalising self and others.

I began the meditation by bringing my attention into my breath, and focusing on the slow ‘in’ and ‘out’ of my breathing. After a while I felt light and peaceful, and I moved on to my main meditation.

I began by thinking about all my friends and how they cannot find true happiness. They try and try to find happiness in normal things, but whenever they attain their goal, it leaves them feeling hollow. The things they see as the causes of happiness are really causes of pain: samsara’s pleasures are deceptive, give no contentment, only torment. Engaging in samsaric pleasures is like licking honey off a razor blade.

I settled my mind on this thought of my friends feeling pain just beneath the surface of the pleasure. I stayed with this image for a while and in time I naturally developed a wish that they could find true happiness rather than the false happiness of samsara. I wished with all my heart that they could find happiness, and I focused on that feeling of wishing them happiness. I remained on this feeling for a while.

I then moved on to think about what this means in terms of equalising self and others.

It seemed clear to me that wishing others to find true happiness is the same as my own inherent wish for myself to find true happiness too. By practising wishing love, I am equalising myself and others because I want them to be as happy as I want to be. With this feeling of equality in my mind, I returned to my wish that everyone could find true happiness.


May all living beings develop wishing love, and in so doing find the path that leads to perfect enlightenment for the benefit of all.

Practice in the Meditation Break

I will try to maintain my wish that everyone find true happiness, rather than the changing suffering of samsara.