The purpose of this meditation is to mix our mind completely with the thought of exchanging our cherishing of ourself with the cherishing of others, and then to contemplate what this means in light of the practice of taking on the sufferings of others.

I began by mixing my mind with my Guru’s mind, and imagining my mind becoming like his: stable as a mountain, still as a deep ocean. As I focused on these two aspects, it seemed like my mind became both stable like a mountain while at the same time still like a deep ocean. It always thrills me how my mind can feel like both of these seemingly incompatible things simultaneously. I developed a very peaceful and pleasant feeling during this process, and stayed with it until it was time to move on.

I began by thinking about how I really want to cherish only others, and how I really want to forget all about cherishing myself. Cherishing others is the path to happiness while cherishing myself is the path to misery. I felt like I wanted to turn my view away from myself and to ‘look’ towards other.

I thought about how our eyes have blind spots. These blind spots are literally patches of our visual field which have nothing on them. I felt like I could alter my view so that I was in the blind spot, and all I could ‘see’ were others. I would be able to forget all about my ‘self’, because it was in the blind spot, so not even its absence would be registered. I focused on this simple idea of looking towards (and cherishing) others – exchanging my self for others for the a long while, getting closer and closer to a perfect feeling of not cognising a ‘self’ at all. It was very peaceful and happy.

After a while I thought about what this means in light of the practice of taking on the suffering of others.

It seemed so natural to want to take on the sufferings of others, following my previous meditation. Having forgotten all about my own suffering, there was nothing else to be concerned with but others’ suffering. I wished to alleviate their suffering completely. With this added dimension, I returned to my feeling of looking only towards others, and mixed my mind with this feeling for the rest of the meditation.


May all living beings find release from their suffering by losing their self-cherishing, and through that practice quickly attain the higher realisations which lead to the supreme attainment of enlightenment for the benefit of all.

Practice in the Meditation Break

I will try to always look to others and cherish them, forgetting about my ‘self’ as much as I can.